We’ve all experienced failure. And some of our “failures” stay with us for years, don’t they? Maybe it was a failing grade or a failed marriage. Maybe it was a failure to get a job or a home. Maybe we let down a friend and failed to keep that promise. Maybe we disappointed our parents and failed them. It could be a failed audition or failed investment. A failure to maintain your weight or exercise routine. Maybe it was a failed physical test or health exam. You’ve failed to listen or follow directions. You failed to be someone else’s version of who they wanted you to be. You may have even inherited failure energy from someone else.
In my work as a clairvoyant, reading energy for people, I’ve sometimes had clients sitting in what I call “failure” energy. It is heavy or thick and weighs them down, like a dark cloud hanging over them or showing up in one of their aura layers. It can cut them off from other energies and separate them from being able to feel or have grace and love. Their energetic space is more confined and not able to expand. The energy flow in their space looks limited, there’s not as much room to flow. The failure energy can also act like a vacuum in a way and suck the vitality from them. It’s very disempowering to say the least.
In some instances, the client is so accustomed to being in this energy that they identify as a failure themselves. They believe they have failed so badly or so often that they believe they ARE failures. They don’t see themselves as separate from this failure energy. They see life in terms of success or failure. And with every measure of success or failure, they ride a roller coaster of steep ups and terrifying downs. They can even become the roller coaster. It’s exhausting, although sometimes the failure energy is validating their pictures that they ARE a failure. It’s strangely validating and therefore comforting in a way. (Sometimes we need to check where our validation is coming from and why we’re looking for it there, what is it we’re getting from that?)
Have you ever done something so horrible, embarrassing, or humiliating that you feel like you want to be invisible or just disappear? You can’t even face it. Failure can be crushing.
How do you relate to the energy of failure in your life? Do you immediately look for where to place blame—whether on yourself, on someone else, or elsewhere? Are you afraid to fail? Do you have permission to fail? Are you in resistance to failing in some areas?
How was failure treated in your family when you were growing up? Did punishment rain down on you if you failed? How is failure treated in your family or community now? Do you give people around you enough space to fail? Do you have permission to fail, is that okay?
Is your relationship to failure energy different now than a few years ago? Do you find that you can more easily let go of the need to define something as a success or a failure? Can you let go of defining yourself in these terms?
I invite you to explore your relationship with failure energy and encourage you to grow more neutrality around your experiences of failure. I want you to create more separation between you and your failure experiences—your stories of failure.
Failure can teach us many things about ourselves and about life. No need to over-identify with it and become the energy of failure. Rather, allow it and have your seniority with it, learn from it. Failure is simply another energy. It is not who you are. You are NOT a failure.
Can you forgive yourself?
With Love,
Lynnette Suzanne
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